We asked the dudes at (read more about them here), for their take on this dating conundrum: Q: After four months of a great relationship, why would a guy just stop calling? He's done with the relationship and too chicken to tell you.
Seriously, everything "appeared" to be going great, but now he stopped calling, won't return my calls or texts. It's particularly rough, because he seemed like the perfect guy. He might have commitment issues, or a fear of abandonment which causes him to bail on a good thing prematurely.
In all my years of dating men, if there’s one thing that’s stuck out like a sore thumb in a man, it’s his insecurity.
At least in all the men I’ve dated, more than half of them were insecure. What’s more surprising is that I’m not the only one who’s had to deal with insecure men.
And considering texting has only been around for a decade or so, the art of the perfect SMS has yet to be mastered.
And while you probably know that important conversations—whether you’re pissed at him or ready to talk about your future—should never happen via text, there are other i Messages you should never send his way.1. ” Focus only on the coming date, and not beyond it, Davis advises.
“Looking forward to more nights with you like that.”Alluding to a shared future—however benign your comment may seem—is a serious no-no at the start of a new relationship, says Laurie Davis, founder of e and author of . ] Sometimes women get ahead of themselves and build up elaborate fantasies involving a future with their new man, but guys usually aren’t so quick to move that way, she explains. And avoid being too specific—like suggesting dates or times—which can make him feel boxed in.2. ”For a man, meeting a woman’s mom and dad is fraught with all sorts of awkward possibilities, especially in the early stages of your courtship, explains Guy Blews, author of .
It is unfortunate though, that we live in a world that takes lying to someone lightly.[Read: How to deal with insecurity in a relationship] That’s the strange power of insecurity and insecure men in a relationship.Experiences with insecure men The first time I ever dated an insecure guy was almost a decade ago.“If he values you, he will be keen to make a good impression on your parents, and that's the guy you want them to meet.”3. If you still don’t hear from him, let go and move on.4.“We should be Facebook friends.”Davis says this pops up most often with younger women.Now he's showing his true colors: he's a coward who figures he'll just pull a disappearing act and let things work themselves out on their own. Neither of which excuses the fact that he's a massive tool. Chances are, you aren't the first woman he's done this to. Eventually, someone will do the same thing to him and shatter his heart into a million pieces.