The other day, my friends and I were talking (read: extensively gossiping) about an acquaintance and her new boy.
I tried to say they were “dating.” Someone else said they weren't dating because they weren't exclusive.
When you start dating someone and things are going really well, there is usually shift towards being super casual with each other and becoming more serious. So how do you know if you’re on the road to becoming a real couple, or if things are going to stay casual forever?
This shift typically starts happening before you’re comfortable enough to speak up and be like, “Hey, what are we doing? A bunch of real dudes talked about in an Ask Reddit thread, and I’m sharing the responses.
It's not always easy to tell the difference between a guy who's seriously into you and one who's wrapped up in the moment. Lust is a powerful thing, and some men will do just about anything in the sweet spot between "nice to meet you" and "sex." Closing the gap between point A and B can be a goal some men pursue with the same vigor as Roger Federer practicing for, playing in, and attempting to win Wimbledon, for example.
They may get carried away and act like you're the be-all and end-all, only to lose interest or show their true colors as soon as you sleep together.
I say we were “dating” in the beginning because we were regularly going on dates right off the bat.
How long before insecurities, neediness, and jealousy creep in? If you’re struggling to find people willing to move beyond casual dating, there’s a good chance you’re giving too much.
We were so comfortable that things just 'worked' like that.
In a weird way, when things get serious they feel more casual.
Of course, life has a cute, charming way of making things unnecessarily complicated, so there are about one million different stages you can undergo within the “hooking up” and “dating” stages.
But overall, odds are you're doing something that falls under one of the two umbrellas.